this is your day

        No matter what you have in mind, a wedding is a very real day that you've spent *a lot* of emotional energy planning for and I want you to be able to take part in and enjoy whatever you have planned.

        It's okay to break the rules and have a wedding that represents exactly what you and your partner want rather than what someone else or tradition or a blog tells you to do, and I'll encourage you to do just that until the very last dance.